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Jul 15, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

I often refer to an option in the midst of hardship ‘I could see peace instead of this’.

I also use ‘Do I prefer to be right or happy?’ These idea formulations are really helpful for me.

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Jul 15, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

ACIM. Absolutely. That's the "miracle" to which there is no order of difficulty.

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As Cynthia Sue Larson likes to say: How good can it get? Imagine that.

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Jul 15, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

Words of wisdom! Question regarding the byline; "For over 3 billion years on this planet there were only single-celled organisms. Then one day they somehow learned to work together and make complex multi-celled creatures." Exactly how did this happen? Did single-celled creatures wake up one morning and decide that they were going to start making better choices? 🤔 There's nothing "rational" about the evolutionary origin theory.... Call it "God", "Infinite Mind", "Universal Consciousness", or simply a mystery, just don't make up a new fairy tale..... 😉

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No fairy tale at all. It actually happened. And most people overlook that insanely beautiful and mysterious fact that it did. It sounds like you did not. Kudos!

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Jul 15, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

Great post.

Sometimes we make calculated and informed choices, sometimes we make reactionary decisions. Neither are good or bad, right or wrong.

Assessing the results and recalibrating for our next choice is what matters most. We all make mistakes. We all learn by making mistakes. Own your decisions. Don’t point the finger at anyone else. This is taking responsibility.

How did my choice impact my life and the life of those around me? How can I get a better result or more understanding? How can I learn from my choices?

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If we live by the “Growth mindset” philosophy then this makes perfect sense.

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Jul 16, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

Control is our greatest illusion, we do not have it. The weather, the politics, our children's actions and thoughts, our spouses or other close ones, life and fate are outside our control. All we have is the ability to control our own actions, our words, our deeds, and from that, it seems to me, the way opens towards better actions, but then again, it ain't necessarily so.

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Jul 15, 2023Liked by The Society of Problem Solvers

Nice hat tip to David Goggins, the definition of mind over matter and the antithesis of a culture that avoids everything “uncomfortable.” Over-emphasis on sensitivity is destroying us. Let’s be like Dave and invoke “suck it up” beyond spin class.

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To me choices are not static. You make one choice in one direction and you never know where other choices might have led you. There is no possible way to know what the best choice always is because you cannot know anything about the choices you didn't make. You can assume this or that, but assumption is not reality or truth. I often wonder how the entire world's population (7.8 billion people) would be ranked according to their choices. Life is just life, and sometimes choices have little to do with it.

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To us the outcome is irrelevant. You still are your choices because that is the only thing you control.

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A dear friend of mine proposed the idea of fan shaped destiny. Destiny fans out all around us. What ever blade of the fan we take, it continues to fan out in all directions. Each choices deletes some choices while opening up others. Are they good, are they ill, are they blessed, are they cursed, is it honey that one tastes or brine. To paraphrase a song from Kismet, named Fate. We go where we go and die where we do, not much else can be said for sure.

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What choices?

Other than to work until you die or become a ruthless scammer and get rich on other peoples' backs.

As a white European I've been fortunate, I had many choices. Until I got old.

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Look harder. There are more choice to be made. The most important one being, at the end of your life will you look back and say: “I was Christine all the way!”

Maybe the choices are an illusion. But if they are it is all we got. Go for it. Just like choice, age might also be an illusion.

Let’s go!

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I'm already done. There's nothing I need to do. I've done more by myself than a thousand average other people together.

The BIG decision is when and how to kill myself.

I was really reflecting on your and others choices, not mine :)

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This platform is as messed up as any other. Can't even edit :(

The web worked better in the 90s.

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Can someone help me? I am trying to find a creative post yesterday on Substack titled: Extend social credit scores to politicians. Did anyone see it and if yes, can you post the link here for me to retrieve? TY!

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